Suddenly Single
A Guide to Rediscovering your Sexual Confidence
So, you are now back on the singles market. Maybe you’ve had a rough time and still not over him, or maybe you can finally breath, either way, you’ve got a lot more “me time”. Let’s make the most of it.
What helps us recover quickest after a break-up is to get our confidence back, and as we are in the business of sexy, we’re going to talk about sexual confidence. Many women loose their sexual confidence if a relationship isn’t going well. We either become less interested in sex or less interested in the other party. Or if you’ve had the unpleasant experience of being dumped for no-apparent-reason then you might be wondering what you’ve done wrong and are doubting the feeling s you experienced during the relationship. Just stop there. Nine times out of ten you have not done anything wrong, it is usually the other party thinking the grass looks much greener on the other side, or one of the other nine million and forty three thousand reasons men run away from relationships.
Now is a great time to get to know yourself again and figure out what makes you happy. And yes, we are talking about your sexual confidence. By working on your sexual confidence during this time you’ll be distracted by discovering what makes you feel powerful, what makes you feel satisfied, what makes you feel sexy and soon you’ll be oozing sex appeal and sexual confidence.
The most obvious place to get sexually satisfied is to pleasure yourself. But we understand this might not be every woman’s cup of Darjeeling. So start small. Start with age old rituals, like a one hour soak in a bubble bath, your bathroom full of candles and tea-lights and stream some relaxing music (http://cardamar.quad341.com/ or http://www.last.fm/music/+free-music-downloads/chillout). Make sure you take your loofah and put on a face mask and really indulge. Put a clean fluffy towel nearby, ready for when you get out, and have some all over moisturiser on hand to massage into your body. Make it sexy – add a vibrating rubber duckie to the mix and explore parts of your body that have been much neglected.
Another no fail at boosting your sexual confidence is to pull together a great outfit and make yourself up. Even if it’s just going to the office, spending extra time getting ready can make all the difference. Start after your shower with some body shimmer powder, then your underwear – pick out a matching set, something a bit sexy. Then your favourite outfit. Finally to your make-up. You can’t go past some plumping lip gloss to make you feel like you have the most kissable lips on the planet. And a scent, pull out a perfume that you haven’t worn for ages (make sure it’s not off – most perfumes last around three years!) and do a light spritz. So how do you feel? Hopefully like Beyonce, now wiggle your butt and strut your new sexual confidence!
OK, if you have accomplished the steps above and you’re feeling super sexy, it’s time to turn inwards and reward yourself with an orgasm delivered by you…with a little help. There a few classic vibrators that will deliver absolute pleasure and restore your inner wellbeing. All of those mentioned below have helped many women achieve their first orgasm…
Firstly Lelo Gigi – one of the premier luxury vibrators that is an international bestseller. Gigi is a G-spot vibrator that will help you find your deep secret of female pleasure. Lelo Gigi has been consistently reviewed as a five star vibrator in sex stores around the world. QX Magazine calls it “The Rolls Royce of sex toys”.
You can’t go past a rabbit vibrator for pure self indulgent pleasure. Do you remember the episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte discovered the rabbit vibrator and then didn’t want to leave her apartment for days? Well, technology has moved on since 1998 and whilst the pearl vibrator will still deliver a fantastic orgasm, you can now have something that looks as sexy as it performs. Look at the rabbit vibrator now.
Finally ladies, don’t forget to add lubricant when using a vibrator. As you are now looking after yourself, there is only one choice for lubricant. A certified organic water based lubricant by Yes. The purist lubricant around that won’t leave you with a yeast infection like many other lubricants, and will really enhance the performance of your vibrator.
The boyfriend substitutes (recently added)
How we managed to write this article without this section is beyond us. OK, here’s what you need to know. There are two boyfriend substitutes on the market and we’re not talking blow-up dolls in the way of Ken. No, our friends at LoveHoney invented the sqweel, which is a wheel with ten tongues on it. You can imagine what happens when you turn it on. You’ll have yourself an oral sex simulator!
Then back in the designer corner is SaSi by Je Joue. SaSi is a multi-function vibrator with the added bonus of remembering what you like! SaSi has a moving ball that is the closest sensation to the tip of the tongue (or at least was before sqweel came out). But come on – remembering what you like? That’s heaps better than a boyfriend!
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