Just because you don’t live in the same apartment or house doesn’t mean you can’t keep up the intimacy in your long distance relationship.
There are choices, so many choices of ways to connect with app based vibrators and we’ve got a list of the best vibes that will get you through the hard and sometimes lonely times.
Our picks are based on popularity, independent online reviews (from couples who review sex toys for a living), the feedback we get from our customers, design, quality and usefulness.
Don’t forget we offer free, discreet delivery to Australia, NZ and the UK, so you can buy online and have it delivered to your door, or your partners door.
Let’s find out more about how you can use adult toys in your long distance relationship (LDR).
How does a vibrator work over long distance?
Teledildonics…tele-what-now? Teledildonics is controlling a sex toy over a long distance, via the internet. How it works is very simple.
Vibrator connects to your phone via Bluetooth. Your phone controls the device via an app. Your partner also has this app on their phone, which means they can control your device.
If you are using a teledildonic device and he is using a teledildonic device, then haptic feedback is also communicated. What this means is the feeling is transmitted. So how tightly you squeeze is transferred to his device so he can feel your squeeze. The Kiiroo couples kit is set up to do exactly this.
What sort of mobile device is best for remote sex toys?
Glad you asked. Obviously it needs to be a smartphone so you can download the app, and really the newer the operating system, the better. Most will work well on Android 4.3 and up and iOS 6 and up, however be warned that setup can take a frustratingly long time. And the Bluetooth has been known to drop out. It ain’t perfect technology yet, but when it works it is brilliant!
You don’t need to be together to setup either, you can connect each device remotely, which is handy when you don’t live in the same country (not on all devices).
What are the best vibrators for long distance relationships?
We’ve reviewed the eight best selling vibrators for LDRs and provide you with a brief summary so you can learn about the differences.
|Kiiroo Onyx & Pearl||Couples Kit||iOS 6.0/Android 4.3||BUY|
|Elvie||Wearable Vibe||iOS 7.0/Android 4.3||BUY|
|OhMiBod Bluemotion Gen2||Wearable Vibe||iOS 10/Android 5||BUY|
|We-Vibe Sync||Couples Vibrator/Wearable||iOS 4.0/Android 4.4||BUY|
|OhMiBod Esca||Insertible Vibrator||iOS 10/Android 5||BUY|
|We-Vibe Ditto||Anal Plug||iOS 4.0/Android 4.4||BUY|
|OhMiBod Fuse||Rabbit Vibrator||iOS 10/Android 5||BUY|
|Kiiroo Titan||Masturbator||iOS 6.0/Android 4.3||BUY|
Kiiroo Onyx and Pearl Couples Kit
This is the top of the range long distance vibrator kit, made by Kiiroo, the founders of interactive sex toys. Through the app you can control each others devices and and with haptic feedback you can feel each other through the devices.
This second iteration of Onyx and Pearl have improved on connectivity. But they are also great toys to use on their own.
And both are VR compatible, so whilst your partner is snoozing you can hook up to interactive porn at FeelMe.
Bottom line, if you want a shared climax with your partner from the other side of the world, this is the way to do it.
If you are a same sex couple, Pearl is available for individual purchase, as is Onyx, so you could just get two, or mix and match with another product listed below.
This vibrator has a one year warranty and if you purchase with Mimi De Luxe we provide free returns should something go wrong in the warranty period.
|Quality toys in their own right||Bluetooth drops out|
|Superb shared sensations|
|Easy to clean|
We love Elvie and are so pleased it can be included in this list!
Now your partner might gape at the price, but believe us, it is worth it. For him and for you. If it means he can play with your toy, whilst its inserted in you, from the other side of the world – he’ll probably go for it.
And it’s like a special reward when he get’s back. Your pelvic floor will feel 20 years younger (ok, that might be a long stretch, but it will feel much improved!).
Elvie is primarily a pelvic floor trainer. Instead of just guessing if you are doing pelvic floor exercises correctly, it tells you. And the app provides you with exercises, and you can compete with other ladies your age to see how has the best pelvic strength.
Want to know about other benefits of having a strong pelvic floor? You’ll experience easier and stronger orgasms, improved bladder control (and you’ll be able to trampoline if you’ve had kids) and your partner will notice an improved difference. In fact most men can’t stop talking about it!
The Elvie app has great support from this women-led company, as does the device. Your partner will need to be with you to connect to the app initially, but after that they can work it remotely.
|Aesthetically pleasing||We don’t know of any!|
|Sexual health benefits|
|Easy to use app|
Mix and match these vibrators for long distance love
Kiiroo, We-Vibe and OhMiBod devices all talk to one another (if they are app enabled), so you can buy a Fleshlight for him and a Fuse for her and create your own long distance couples kit, or two Pearls for her and her, or a Onyx and a Ditto for him and him.
OhMiBod Bluemotion Gen2
OhMiBod has been making connected vibrators since their best selling Club Vibe (which vibrates to ambient music).
This is their second generation of the Bluemotion Nex. It is a wearable panty vibrator and ships with the knickers you need to store it in (one size fits all).
This is a very playful vibrator. Get game and wear it outside the house. Let your partner play with the controls whilst you are out and about – it will drive you crazy!
The OhMiBod app also allows you to chat discreetly to each other and you can record your orgasm goals! Yes you provide feedback to the Oh!Dometer and your partner gets notified as to good they were…or their fingers…or their smartphone skills…errr, you get the picture.
OhMiBod is a body safe company and their products have a one year warranty.
|Shared pleasure together or around the world||Requires newer phones|
|Easy to use|
We-Vibe has been around for just a bit longer than Mimi De Luxe, so we are pretty sure you know all about this revolutionary couples vibe.
The Sync takes the We-Vibe to next level. So not only can you wear it when you are making love together and enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex, but you can also wear it when your partner is not around and they can please you with the app.
You can either play with it in the comfort of your bedroom, or treat it like a wearable vibe, pop it in and go out of the house. Turn it on and let your partner surprise you when they turn you on!
You can connect the Sync to all of the other We-Vibe app enabled toys and those by OhMiBod and Kiiroo, so both partners can feel pleasure, long distance.
The We-Play app is very intuitive and easy to use. It lets you save favourite vibration patterns and adjust with the touch of a finger.
We-Vibe products now come with a two year warranty and We-Vibe is a carbon neutral company.
|Aesthetically pleasing||Not the most comfortable out and about vibe|
|Sexual health benefits|
|Easy to use app|
OhMiBod Kiiroo Esca Egg Vibrator
This little pocket rocket is a best seller. This is one of the best long distance vibrators because it is so discreet.
Once it is inside you, there are no external noises, so it is perfect if you want your partner to please you whilst you are out.
And it has the added bonus of helping strengthen your pelvic floor, and you know what that means men? Tighter pelvic muscles for a more intimate sensation and easier orgasms for her.
Your partner can easily connect to Esca via the OhMiBod app, which allows you to have private chats as well.
Developed by OhMiBod and Kiiroo, Esca works really well paired with a Kiiroo device.
All OhMiBod toys are body safe and their products have a one year warranty.
|Super fun||App requires new phones|
|Sexual health benefits|
We-Vibe Ditto Butt Plug
If your long distance partner loves butt stuff, the We-Vibe Ditto will make them very happy. Ditto is the only long distance internet controlled butt plug that we know of.
With the We-Vibe app you can control the vibrations and create new ones, privately video or text chat.
Ditto isn’t really a beginners butt plug, the size and deep rumble of vibrations makes it more suitable for experienced users.
Its all over silicone body is super smooth and with a bit of Sliquid Sassy Anal Lube it will easily glide in.
We-Vibe now provide a three year warranty on all products and are carbon-neutral so you know you are getting a premium product that will last your long distance relationship.
|Only remote butt plug||Set-up can take 30 mins|
|All over body safe silicone|
|Good size for anal lovers|
Ladies this is one rabbit vibrator you don’t want to miss out on. If you are in a LDR then you’ll enjoy many benefits from OhMiBod’s Fuse.
Let’s just get this out of the way first. It’s a great VR vibrator. So if you can’t get to sleep without an orgasm and your partner isn’t lying next to you, just load up some VR content or encoded videos and it’ll be like you’re with someone else but not cheating!
Cam girls love Fuse because their audience can control the vibrator and watch their reaction at the same time, and with the OhMiBod app you can do this to with your partner.
Fuse has a touch sensitive setting which means when it comes into contact with your body, it reacts. And the further you insert Fuse, the more it reacts by increasing the intensity.
OhMiBod app enabled products work really well with Kiiroo and this works especially well with the Fleshlight Kiiroo Launch (coming soon).
|Best VR vibe for women||App requires newer devices|
|All over body safe silicone|
|Great when coupled with Kiiroo products|
I N T E R N A T I O N A L B E S T S E L L E R. There, is that enough evidence for you that this toy is the bomb?! Titan is a more affordable and modern version of Onyx.
Whilst it is great for guys in a long distance relationship, Kiiroo Titan is also just as much fun on its own.
It connects really well to OhMiBod & Kiiroo products, but also works great with VR content and encoded videos.
Titan provides an immersive interactive experience and you get 1,500 tokens to use with content within the FeelPornStars website.
Again in terms of partner long distance hook-ups the Titan works really well with OhMiBod Fuse or Kiiroo Pearl.
|Best VR masturbator||You might run out of tokens!|
|Biggest range of online VR|
|Great when coupled with OhMiBod products|
How to choose the best long distance vibrator for you?
We know, the list is long and you have seemingly lots of choice. But think about what you both want, and make sure you choose a toy for versatility. For example the Fuse is a great standalone rabbit vibrator, so if you don’t use it long distance much you haven’t wasted your money as it is still a technically advanced bit of kit without the interactivity.
It is still early days for the technology, so even six months from now it will improve, in one year it will be even better, and the apps are constantly upgraded which means a buggy app now might be smooth sailing in a few months.