This is a question we get asked at Mimi De Luxe regularly, and we’re guessing more people are thinking it than asking it!
You’ve come online looking for better sex and you are faced with hundreds of options. So here’s an easy list of products that will help you have better sex. They vary from sex toys that give you more orgasms, vibrators that help you to climax together during sex, to adult products that provide you with a work out and increase your ability to orgasm better.
By the way we are assuming you are female and looking for women’s sex toys and play things. Just so we’re clear – that’s who these suggestions are for!
1. Kegel Balls
The first step to better sex often starts with exercise. OK, don’t moan. It’s not like you have to start working out in sweats and loud music. Exercising your pelvic floor will make sex better.
The tighter your pelvic floor muscles are, the more likely you are to achieve orgasm. And if you’re older or had kids, tightening your pelvic floor muscles will put a big smile on your partners face as it makes it better for your man as well!
There are plenty of ways to exercise your kegels. In fact you can start right now, reading this. Pull your vagina up for 10 quick repetitions, like you were trying to stop yourself doing a wee. Relax completely. Now do it again and when you get to 10 hold it for a count of five, whilst continuing to breath normally. Now do that three times a day for next three months and you will improve your pelvic floor.
The key to strong pelvic floor muscles is to exercise them regularly, FOREVER. It’s just like physical exercise, you are never finished. If you stop, your pelvic floor may stay strong for a few months, but eventually it will become weaker.
We suggest you make kegel exercising part of your daily routine. The easiest way to do this is to attach it to something you already do like take a shower or clean your teeth.
Elle Black, founder of Mimi De Luxe, leaves her kegel balls near the shower, so she pops them in before she gets in the shower, does some exercise with them in the shower, finishes showering and then takes them out.
If you want to use kegel balls for kegel exercises this is a great way to do it. To get maximum effect from the kegel balls, it is best to do the kegel exercises outlined above with a kegel ball inserted. Just wearing kegel balls alone isn’t usually enough to work out your pelvic floor. And if you use kegel weights to do your workout, one routine a day should be sufficient.
For those of you that want an easier way to exercise your kegels, you can incorporate some technology like the MiuMiu Remote Control Kegal Balls. These and similar devices like app controlled kegels, pretty much move for you, forcing your pelvic floor to exercise. They also provide oodles of pleasure so are perfect for ensuring you’ll do your exercises often!
Once you know about lubricant this is easy to incorporate into everyday sex, but there seem to be a lot of people who don’t know about lube, and even more people that think lubricant is only for old people.
Wrong, wrong, wrong. Lubricant is for everybody who likes sex and wants to have better sex!
Whilst lubricant isn’t a sex toy, it certainly is something that enables better sex. There are a range of reasons women don’t get wet enough, but this can be easily overcome with the help of a little natural lubricant.
9 out of 10 women preferred using lubricant during sex as the sex felt better wet and the women felt they were more easily orgasmic!
So which lubricant is the best for hotter sex?
We recommend an organic water based lubricant like Yes Organic or Sliquid Organics Natural Lube. Both of these will feel very natural and won’t give you added nasties like thrush or mysterious burning. Please don’t use the commercially available brands from the supermarket. Many contain an antimicrobial chemical that kills off your good bacteria, leaving the door wide open for a yeast infection.
And really ladies, we’re talking about protecting our most important organ that makes us “us”. Somewhere down the track that cheap lubricant might be responsible for disrupting your endocrine levels and play havoc with fertility, sex drive and your periods.
Warming up to sex with accessories like blindfolds, whip and massage can arouse your senses and put your whole body on high alert. Kind of like its poised and saying “what’s going to happen next”. This makes you more aroused and wetter, as you anticipate what comes next.
If you start your lovemaking session with a full body massage, given by your partner, you will be in the best mindset possible for better sex. By your lover relaxing your body with an all over massage and teasingly touching/caressing your more sensitive areas, like breasts, clitoris, inner thigh and bottom, your body will be aching for sex. Even better if they use a feather tickler or similar to provide you with surprise tingles. Make sure you use a quality, natural massage oil and go sparingly around her lady parts, unless you choose Yes Organic Oil Based Lubricant – this product is great as an all over body oil and entirely suitable as a lubricant.
Blindfold & Handcuffs
By actually removing one of your senses (sight), you turn up all of the other senses. So wearing a blindfold can make you feel the touch of your lover more intensely. It can also help you connect with your partner during sex by being able to focus more on what you are both doing.
Likewise with the handcuffs, you’ll find when you are unable to move your arms, your body is more on edge, although not in a bad way. It will try to anticipate what comes next and most women find this very arousing. Try leaving the cuffs on you or your partner for the whole sex session and see how explosive the sex is.
Sometimes a change is as good as a holiday, and the same goes for your sex life. Bringing something unexpected into your sex session is bound to turn up the heat for both of you and make your sex session sizzle.
Using a whip when your partner is about to climax can be an extraordinary turn on, for both of you. Gentle now, you don’t want to inflict too much pain. Take time to find the pleasure/pain balance and use it a few times.
4. Couples Vibrators
Ok, to the crescendo of all that makes sex better (for a woman). Clitoral stimulation is our number one friend and enemy. Friend because if you get clitoral stimulation during sex, then you are much more likely to orgasm and the sex will be better, however, it can also be your enemy because a man just isn’t designed with a body part that stimulates the clitoris during intercourse.
Of course he has fingers, but sometimes he’s just not in the right position to use them effectively, or your fingers can get in there either. So the solution to all of this is the couples vibrator. A good couples vibrator will provide stimulation to the clitoris hands-free, and can be worn during sex.
The new We-Vibe Sync is now adjustable which means it should fit a whole lot better than previous We-Vibe’s. You can also use an app with it, but all that aside, its main purpose is the stimulate the clitoris hands free and stay in place whilst you have sex.
There are now a whole range of couples vibrators off the back of the We-Vibe, so there is bound to be something to your budget and liking. A vibrating cock ring is another hands-free device, although these can slip around a bit during the act, look out for one with a large vibrating head that will fit your clitoris (we’re all different, some are closer to the vagina and some further away).
Alternate to the couples vibe is a bullet or finger vibrator. These are usually small enough to fit in between you and your partner and you’ll be able to pinpoint the stimulation and put the vibrator exactly where needed.
Try them one at a time, or try as many as possible all at once. See if you can use a sex toy to have better sex. We bet you can!