So, you’ve been looking for ways to add a little more excitement to your sex life, and you’ve come across the idea of roleplay.
It looks like fun, it’s safe, and it seems like the perfect thing to get your imagination humming and your juices flowing.
The only problem is – you’ve never done it before.
The key thing to remember with sexual roleplay is that it’s all about using your imagination, and acting out sexual fantasies in a new and exciting way. For a time, you get to be somebody else, and be with somebody else too. What could be more exciting than that?
The only problem is, sexual roleplay can be extremely daunting for beginners. You’re putting yourself into the shoes of a completely fictional character, and that in itself is enough to make most people nervous. Add in the fear of embarrassment and you’ve got yourself a pretty fearsome obstacle to overcome!
But roleplay for beginners doesn’t have to be daunting (or even embarrassing). It’s actually a great way to keep sex exciting, and by following some general guidelines you can ensure your roleplaying adventures are super sexy and fun for both you and your partner:
Talk to your partner
Before you dive right into acting out your perfect fantasy, take a little time to discuss the details of how it would work with your partner. Being open and honest from the very beginning about how this particular fantasy looks and feels to you is a great way to not only build your own confidence in roleplaying out that fantasy, but also gives your partner a deeper insight into exactly the sort of thing that turn you on (and vice versa).
Talk to each other, share ideas and above all do not be embarrassed. This is your partner after all.
Once you’ve broached the subject and shared some ideas, you’re looking to come up with at least a general plan for how your roleplaying encounter might look, the roles you’ll both be undertaking and the imaginary scenario behind the scene. Talking through how you intend to bring this fantasy to life beforehand will make all the difference.
Start off simple
Remember, roleplaying is about getting into character – so to make the whole experience sexy (and not silly), start off with something simple. Make the characters and the fantasy work for you, your partner and your situation.
If you’re going to be doing it in the bedroom, then pop your roleplay cherry by coming up with a fantasy that would indeed take place in a bedroom. A fantasy in which high-class hooker being seduced by rich and powerful hotel guest comes to mind, but just go with whatever appeals most to you.
By keeping the fantasy in-line with your surroundings you make it a whole lot easier for yourself to get into character, and you’ll come off far more confident as a result.
Use Props and Costumes
To go deeper into your fantasy and really feel like you’re getting into character, it’s definitely a good idea to get your hands on some costumes and props to get you into character. This will help to build your confidence in playing a fantasy role, and makes the whole experience just that little bit more authentic. And luckily, there are literally hundreds of different costumes, toys and other accessories on the market that are designed to let you get the most out of your roleplaying experiences.
But, if investing in costumes or other clothing seems a little too advanced for you, then you could just make up a roleplaying character using some of the clothing that you already possess. Choose something sexy, revealing and above all confidence-boosting. We all have an outfit at the back of the closet that might well lend itself to a high-class hooker, right? Or maybe that’s just me?
Either way, the point here is that if you look the part, then you’re more likely to play the part convincingly. It’s no good just acting sexy, you have to feel sexy too, otherwise what’s the point?
Remember that this is what you WANT
It’s easy to get caught up in the confusion of orchestrating a fictional sexual scenario and then trying to fulfil a particular role. This type of overthinking is a sure-fire way to suck all of the enjoyment out of your roleplaying experience, making the whole thing stressful, rather than satisfying. The thing you should keep in mind is that this experience is supposed to be enjoyable.
You’re ready to take your sexual encounters onto a different level, and you’re about to not only look into some of your deepest desires but also begin to act them out. This is a new, exciting experience for both you and your partner – so have fun with it.
It doesn’t matter if you’re not the world’s greatest actress. There’s a whole host of fantasies out there to be explored, some of which you’ll likely enjoy more than others. All that matters is that you (and your partner) enjoy yourself! If you don’t get it right first time, don’t sweat it. As with most things – practice makes perfect. And you’re sure to have a lot of fun practising.