Lubricants aren’t just for sex toys! A quality water based lube will instantly heat up your regular sex life. In fact, 9 out of 10 women thought using a lubricant during sex made it more pleasurable, comfortable and just generally “better”. And this is not an age dependant experience. It’s a myth that women in their twenties don’t need lube.
If you are new to lubrication and think the choice is too daunting, you can’t go wrong with a water based lubricant. These work great with condoms, for sex and with sex toy and vibrators.
Choose your lubricant for the task at hand
There’s a lube for that! There are speciality lubricants for just about every occasion. Here’s a run down of what you’ll what for the right occasion:
General use with Vibrators and Dildos
Anal sex and Anal toys
Playing in Water
Different types of lubricant
Water Based Lubricant
Water based lube feels most like your body’s natural lubrication and is the most widely available type of personal lubricant. It is safe to use on all sex toys and condoms, making it the versatile lubricant. It does dry out the quickest and can have nasty ingredients that aren’t necessary. See below what you don’t want in your lubricant.
- Use with everything from sex toys to condoms to lovemaking
- Recommendation: Sliquid Naturals H2O Personal Lubricant
Oil Based Lubricant
Oil based lubricant, in particular the Yes Organic Oil Lubricant, is a great multi-purpose lubricant for the outside of your body. This particular lube can be used for full body massage as well as a daily moisturiser. Oil based lubricants are not recommended for inside the vagina as they can change the pH levels. They are great for male masturbation.
- Suitable for underwater use with toys
- Great for all over body massage
- Recommendation: Yes Organic Oil Based Lubricant
Silicone Based Lubricant
Silicone lubricants are great for under water activities. They aren’t as slippery as water based lubricant and won’t dissolve in water, which means you will need to wash them off with soap and water. They are also perfect for anal sex as they stay on and last a long time, however they can not be used with silicone sex toys or vibrators. Silicone based lubricants can be used with condoms and toys made from glass, metal and ceramic. Also they can stain your bed sheets by leaving spots that look like oil.
- Great for underwater & anal sex
- Not suitable for silicone sex toys
- Recommendation: Sliquid Silver Silicone Lubricant
An anal lubricant uses a thicker formula than water based lubricant and tends to last longer. A lubricant that is specifically for anal use will have a slightly different pH level to a lubricant for vaginal use, and will keep the anus lubricated as it doesn’t produce any of its own lubricant. A silicone lubricant above is also suitable for anal use, but if you want to use a butt plug or prostate massager you’ll need an anal lubricant without silicone (assuming your toys are made from silicone).
- Great for anal sex
- Suitable for all materials of anal sex toys
- Recommendation: Yes Organics Yes But Personal Lubricant
Not really a lubricant
Warming gels or female arousal oils such as On for Her increases stimulation to your clitoris and vagina (where ever you may put it) by increasing the blood flow, and makes it warm up, thus creating more of your own natural wetness. It also makes you feel a gentle pulsating tingle, mimicking your bodies natural response to being really turned on. Many woman report stronger orgasms using the gel. Some warming gels contain nasty ingredients, however the selection at Mimi De Luxe is all natural. If you have sensitive skin, try On for Her Lite.
- Mimicks the bodies natural response to being very aroused
- Amplifies your own arousal
- Recommendation: Sensuva On for Her Arousal Gel
A tightening gel temporarily tightens your vagina and stimulates natural lubrication. Using a tight gel enhances sensitivity for both partners and the tightening effect increases with usage. It is safe to use with condoms and no other lubricant is needed.
- Temporarily tightens your vagina within 15 mins
- Great for after child birth
- Recommendation: Viamax Tight Gel
What you don’t want in you lubricant
There’s are a two levels to a woman’s vagina flora you don’t want to mess with. Firstly the pH balance and secondly, the mucus production. The mucus production of your vagina can be altered by lubricant. Many lubricants sold in supermarkets have an osmolality that is far greater than your own. Osmolality specifically relates to water based lube as it is a measure of the water content in lubricant. Your vagina is constantly working to achieve a balance of water content so ideally you want a lubricant with a similar osmolality count as your own (measured in mOsm/kg (milliosmoles per kilogram)), otherwise you could end up drying out your cells which in turn leads to bacterial and yeast infections and increased risk of sexually transmitted infections.
According to the World Health Organisation, “Most commercial personal lubricants have high osmolalities. (2000 6000 mOsm/
“the normal osmolality of female vaginal secretions is 260-290 mOsm/kg and in human semen it is 250-380 mOsm/kg”
“… Ideally, the osmolality of a personal lubricant should not exceed 380 mOsm/kg to minimize any risk of epithelial damage”
But how do you know? Well the osmolality is not something that is written on the labels unfortunately, however there are many graphs that show the osmolality of popular brands.
This sugar alcohol may be responsible for a nasty yeast infection. If glycerine is one of the first three ingredients in your lube, then the consistency is not likely to match your internal flora.
Parabens have been linked to disrupting hormones. Whilst they are used widely in the cosmetic industry to give products a longer shelf live, they are coming under more scrutiny as research suggests a link between parabens and cancer. Look out for any word that contains the word paraben like methylparaben or ethylparaben.